About the author: Mary Jo Asmus | SmartBlogs

Mary Jo Asmus Mary Jo Asmus is an executive coach and a recovering corporate executive who has spent the past 12 years as president of Aspire Collaborative Services, an executive-coaching firm that manages Fortune 500 corporate-coaching initiatives and coaches leaders to prepare them for bigger and better things.

It’s mythical and alluring, that thing that you may secretly desire. It surfaces slowly and silently unseen, unheard and often unrecognized. It hides within the facade of your ego, growing larger with time while blinding you to its presence.

Make no mistake. It will destroy you and your organization even while it parasitizes your values and harms the spirits of those who once willingly followed you, but who now trudge along like sheep going to slaughter.[…] Continue Reading »

Like all of you, I’ve had experiences where I had unwittingly offended or hurt someone. I have blind spots (these behaviors can cause problems in relationships because we aren’t aware of them). In each case, I sensed something was amiss and was able to address the reaction of the other person by asking for feedback.

I never intend to cause pain or suffering to others, so it’s important for me to hear others’ experience of me.[…] Continue Reading »

I’ve known many leaders who talk too much. They can suck the life out of a room by commandeering it and shutting out other voices that need to be heard. Any wisdom those other voices have may be lost in the words that gush out of the leader’s mouth like Niagara Falls.

I’ve also known leaders who are quiet and want to speak up more.[…] Continue Reading »

Diane is six months into her assignment as a midlevel manager in a large technology company. She was promoted to this position because of her previous “wild success” as a first-line manager, where she managed a team of engineers. She’s struggling in this new position, feeling ungrounded, overwhelmed and unable to lift herself up enough to see where her organization is heading.[…] Continue Reading »

Many organizations espouse a set of “leadership competencies”; lists of abilities or traits that their leaders and leaders-in-training need to get proficient at. These competencies are a great start to conversations that must be taken to become a good or great leader in any organization. However, they aren’t always descriptive enough for leaders who want to improve themselves to know the actual tactical behaviors needed to hone their craft.[…] Continue Reading »